dreaming of being NOT you charlotte family photographer
Maybe sometimes you dream about being someone else that seems more successful, more awesome, more productive…I have a feeling you sometimes get to the end of your day and say to yourself, “I got zero things on my list done today. How could I have gotten nothing done on my list today?!? What the heck!”And then you start thinking about the most productive people you know and you wonder how they get so much stuff done while you have reached the end of the day and haven’t even showered.
maybe it’s because you were being you.
maybe by noon you got these things done:
- maybe you hugged and listened to your daughter who was having a super hard day and didn’t want to go to school
- maybe you sat with that daughter, searched with her for a different shirt to wear because she didn’t like the one she was wearing, supporting her, being near her, telling her everything would work out
- maybe you facebook messaged with someone who was struggling with a friendship that was about to crumble and helped them to see how to draw on their strengths to extend compassion to the person who was hurting them
- maybe you promoted someone else’s business and in the process gave them a tagline for their new product
- maybe you sent funny emojis to your daughter at school and she said they made her day better
None of these things were on your list.
what if you weren’t being you?
what if none of these people were blessed by you being you today? Maybe your daughter would still be being sad at school. Maybe a friendship wouldn’t have had another chance. Maybe your contribution to someone, who could be seen as a competitor, will help them have the success they’re dreaming of.
Dear friend, you’ve already made a difference today.
Not by following your list, but by being you. If the world didn’t have you, there would be less magic here today. Because today, you shared your kind of magic, that no one else can share. Remember that. Even on the hard days.
it’s not even that you are enough
Because you being enough means that there’s a measurement that you need to be. But, please, hear this…you being you is what this world, this day, needs. The world doesn’t have to have your ‘to do list’ or ‘enough’ of you. It just needs you to be you. The world just needs you to share your magic…the kind you don’t even realize you’re giving and being.
You are magic. Magic surrounds you. When people are with you, there is magic in so many ways just because of who you are in this moment. #magicsurroundsus
see your own magic
Look at what life today would be like if you weren’t in it. Notice the baby that needed YOU, the tears that were cried on YOUR shoulder, the child that was picked up by YOUR arms, the friend that YOUR ears listened to, the person that YOU spoke words of kindness to even when the words weren’t deserved, the parent driver YOU let go in front of you who was in a hurry to get to their child to school because this tardy would have meant detention, the hug YOU gave your husband that comforted him even if he didn’t actually say it.
Everyday you do things that aren’t on a list, things that make this world and people and relationships better. And you don’t even know you’re doing it.
notice you today
Not in a way that makes you feel like no one is giving to you but in a way that YOU realize that, without you, lives would have empty spaces in them and the world would, too.
Notice that your little bit of magic, just by you being YOU, is pretty stinkin awesome.
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Davina Fear is a Charlotte NC Family Photographer and Familyness Adventurer. She believes in bed time chats, bike rides down mountains, and in families who see that real life doesn’t have to be polished to be beautiful.
She blogs at davinafear.com, and creates photo documentaries for families who have days where everyday is simple and complicated. If you don’t want to miss this moment, get in touch by clicking here or sign up for her free e-book here.