I’m an overthinker.
Give me a challenge and I will think it to death. Charlotte family photographer
I also like to take action and not stay stuck.
So I can make myself a little crazy.
Like I said: My contradictions run deep.
Thinking too much for me is also a way I keep myself from moving forward. It’s my subconscious way of helping me stay away from moving forward, being confused, and keeping a distance from unsafe stuff.
You may think that unsafe stuff would be things like jumping off cliffs, skydiving, and walking across hot coals.
Really though, the scary stuff that seems unsafe is just being brave when I think that someone isn’t going to like me or when I write a blog post that seems like I’ve said too much or when I send out an email and I worry that no one is reading.
It’s the little things that my subconscious tries to hold me back from.
When I think of a new big idea that I want to create for you or when I’m about to go into a shoot that’s different from any I’ve done before, my subconscious wants to talk me out of charging forward with all my heart and soul.
It says things like:
What if you do a bad job?
What if you mess up their pictures?
What if, when you put your heart and soul into that session, they end up not really liking what you create?
What if you offend someone with that email?
Don’t say that, people won’t like it.
Stay home. You’re tired anyway. You’ve been really busy. You deserve to rest.
What if you announce this big thing and no one comes? What if it’s crickets?
I’ve gotten to the point that it doesn’t matter anymore.
Living in the land of those kinds of ‘what-ifs’ is not really living.
What then, if no one comes?
What then, if they don’t like what I create for them?
What then, if I go and they don’t like me?
What then, if you go and you’re tired?
Then I’ll ask them again, I’ll make something new, I’ll love them anyway, I’ll sleep in tomorrow.
But I will have LIVED. I will have DONE WHAT I’M meant to do.
Pretending that I can keep going the way I was going…it didn’t feel like completely living.
I prefer to experiment and fail. And try again. Than to not create or live or try.
There are days when I want to go back to my default of letting my life play out without me.
Those days don’t last long.
I’ve started saying:
What if everyone comes to what I plan?
What if they love what I create and want more?
What if I go and they love me?
What if I go and discover a dear friend?
You can think either way.
Theodore Roosevelt said, “It’s far better to have dared mighty things…” He’s right.
Which way are you believing?
What if it turns out terrible or What if it turns out awesome?
Because it comes down to that…what you’re believing.
And that’s something you can change. Right now.
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Davina Fear is Business Coach for Creative Women who want to be more fearless in their life and business. She’s also a Familyness Adventurer and Life Story Photographer. Dinner time is one of her favorite times of day as long as she doesn’t have to make dinner by herself.